It took me days to get over the shocking news of Pankaj Uniyal’s extremely unfortunate demise in an equally unfortunate and tragic accident. When I thought of penning my thoughts, after the initial shock, I just could not do it. The shock would continue to hound me. Later a note written by Praveen (Ranga) encouraged me to say my final “Good Bye” to him.
Tragedies happen around us
all the time but when its closer home
like this one,
it shows the unpredictable nature of life and our futile attempts to plan,
save and hold it.
Learning about Pankaj’s
death at a young age of fifty is shattering.
It is still difficult to believe that the ever
relaxed person with ever smiling face is gone.
‘Hero’, I would often address him as and he would reply , endearingly, with ‘Darling’, like a couple
of teenage boys .
Though I left Dehradun, long back, but
Dehradun never left me and I make it a point to visit it often. In all such visits, few
of us,classmates,
ritualistically ,would get together for drinks where Pankaj was omnipresent,often picking me up
and dropping me off. For most of us he was always the gook looking one, the lucky one
,without a
care in the world.He was also blessed with a lean athletic frame besides an
extremely relaxed attitude. I don’t think anyone has ever
seen him a wee bit stressed or disturbed ever.For me, as most would agree, he looked at
fifty exactly the way he looked when he was in class IX. I bet his clothes of grade nine or ten would
still fit him.
As kids we were envious of
his good looks, attention he drew from girls and of course his Kawasaki Bajaj.
I think he got the bike in class IX and in eighties, and even early nineties, having a bike meant you are a
stud and a dude combined , if
there is anything like that . Of course these words were not used then.
He never seemed to age and
we often joked about this. But in our
last get together, on 01 May 2022, when once again he picked me up and dropped me off, in that
ill fated car, he mentioned something about him , also ,aging and putting on some fat on waist. I smiled and said,” Finally,age is catching up with you too.” We all
had a good laugh on that one.
While dropping me back I shared my plans of getting back to Dehra after
retirement , I knew he would help me as he had helped me around twenty years
back when I had bought a house in Dehra .He said “ Tu aaja , tab dekh lenge “
We almost grew up together
bonding over cricket and a relaxed Pahari attitude. A born athlete, he would never practice but
end up doing well and had a
flailing arms bowling action like
that of Madan Lal.
Even in school days he would often pick me up ,and later drop me ,for Cricket matches,
as we stayed in same part of town.
The good or bad part about
Dehra, being a small town, is you keep bumping into each other and we would bump into each
other quite often. We grew up from
carefree kids to carefree adults experiencing life’s milestone like marriage, fatherhood
around the same time.
It is quite a coincidence
that my first bike also was Kawasaki Bajaj, he had accompanied me to take its
delivery and later for trip to ‘Datt ki Devi’.
My
bike, as with his bike, stayed with me for ages before both of us moved on to
Royal Enfield, Bullet, which we own and
ride, till now.
Around three years back, while dropping me off
on his
bike after our ritualistic evening get together at
President Hotel, a favorite joint
then, he took me through some , long
forgotten, shortcuts trying to evade Cops checking for drunk driving at night,they were quite strict then.
While
he was the Relaxed one , I also had the opportunity of watching him cry , literally shedding tears . I had hosted
a Daru party , basically arranged Daru , for available classmates on getting
Commissioned in 1993. This party was in Cheela Dam guest house , so that we can
drink to our heart’s content and don’t worry going back home. Pankaj ,who was
always a social drinker, sticking to Beers, got overtly emotional after some
.He cried, shedding tears, for a long time on Nalin’s shoulder blabbering sentences like “tu mera bhai hain”.
I can go on but strange are the ways of life. It just passes by when you are planning it. He leaves a void among us and its difficult to even imagine the void created in his family.
Dear ‘Hero’, I will always
wonder whether you left because you just refused to grow old.
Good
bye and rest in peace.
4 comments:
Deepak, a pleasure reading your effort less earthy style we heard with u here at Srinagar.. I could hear you speaking...awesome dear.. Keep it up.. You have a really beautiful style and I will follow u whatever I can. Best wishes.
With a close one's death we loose a part of ourself. We feel we r individual but we r sum of lot of other stuff Hero is still there in your memories forever just a thought away :)
I guess you are right
Thanks a lot Sir
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